Friday, October 9, 2009

Other-Religion-Region-Race-gender phobias (OR3G)- Dangerous to have!!!

This is one more my frank topic

Other-Religion-Region-Race-gender phobias (OR3G)- Dangerous to have!!!
This passage is for the people who like a situation based on either region or on religion. One of my cousin Sunder, he asked me a question
"if u become a teacher and u can get a muslim student like Abdul Kalam and a christian student like Newton, in that situation what would u do ? will u reject??"
That was a great awakening question . Do not mistake me as an hindu extreamist i am just a foundamentalist who follow basic tradition .
There are incidences which made me to write this

Why i am too biased !!!
I studied in proper Brahmin school. I was surrounded by almost brahmins and brahmin-like people which means even they were not brahmins they use to
tell slokas ... So i thought the entire world is full of Brahminism :). Whereever i went i saw only people who had brahmin shades.Ofcourse My home
is very orthodox only Brahmin can enter into kitchen etc... I was in the misconception that i was very fortunate that i belonged to a great community and
i slowly realize that people start identifying
me based on my symbols in my fore head rather than ME.I thought it was good.Then in my college . I chose Meenakshi Sundararajan Engg. College where many people were brahmins.
I was very comfortable and start liking the college. So Rather than a community,Brahminism has become my principle !! Then i joined in Hexaware again some of my friends are brahmins and i started moving comfortably.
In IIIT B also the same problem , i have good relationship with spritual people + brahmins.

One more i wanted to add in this,My friend in my Office (He is non-tamilan) , he always criticize tamil
I always support Tamil.Slowly it has stored in my mind that i should be very close to Tamil people rather than others. So whenever other State people started talking about their region/language i got tensed.Then i realized i was suffering from Region phobia too !! Ofcourse thanks to God that i have nature that i can move with anyone but to a limit.

Now whenever i browse through the net for PhD (incase if i want to do in future) . I go through website and seeing professors profile. If i come across any Christian or Muslim Professor ,
my mind unconsciously start thinking that how could i survive with those people , my culture is different from theirs. This is irrespective of the qualification of the professors.
My brain says it is bad but my heart let me to think like this !!!

My mind now ...

I always chat with people who are different.Last month when i was travelling in a train i wanted to talk with diff. kinds of people. Two people asked me "Are you a Brahmin ??".I noded 'Yes'.Then they started talking about Brahmin related things.I got into the same kind of people than different kind.
Nowadays i am getting so many friends from other caste , religion or region so i am comfortable to mingle with people. Now i could analyze in depth that that i should not be biased based on religion because what if i was born in US ? i could be a christian .

I want to know whether the reader of this blog has found already such a kind of scenarios in his/her experience or from others.If so we will find the full-remedy for this issue !! Some people can be uncomfortable with other religion people , some people with other region , some people with other race (it also can come under region) and other gender(This is for people who hesitate or shiver to talk to other gender)

How to come up ??

The comments for this blog can be helpful for the people who are suffering from any one of the Other-Religion-Region-Race-Gender phobias. I can coin this as OR3G phobia !! (Ofcourse i have only 1 or 2 phobias ). Please share your thought on this.

P.S :- This is my frank blog .. so whatever i had in my mind i wrote , i REQUEST people SHOULD NOT mind :)


Sweta said...

Hey Jithu.. really a nice one.
The only thing that I believe can help in this type of situations is talking to people despite of their region, religion, gender and castes as you have mentioned.
Personally, I too had many misconceptions regarding South India till I came to Chennai, Bangalore, stayed here and interacted with people. But I am glad that they are clear now and I have started believing that behaviour is person specific, never religion/region specific. So we should not generalize things :) !!

Karthik.R said...

That was really frank and well narrated Jithu.

I am also a so called Brahmin, Hindu & Tamilian.

Brahminism and Hinduism didn't go much into me, may be because of the environment in which I was brought up (christian missionary school, chengalpattu town surrounded by villages and slums) and my atheistic inclinations. Except for my forehead symbol, no one can see a Brahmin in me.

Regionalism. Yes I have. Whenever I hear a name ending with 'an', bell will ring. But I don't regret for it.

If telling "I am a tamilian" is regionalism, then telling "I am an Indian" is also regionalism.

These kind of separations were basically formed with the intention to have a community based life. People belonging to a community (religion, region, race, whatever it may be) will help each other and strive for development of their community people. If such helping happens in each community then entire human race will be prosperous.

Problem comes when it turns out as pulling each other legs and people start losing tolerance.

Thankfully I have the tolerance and have always moved with ones who had that. I have muslim and christian friends from my childhood. Thanks to IIITB. I have got many cross state friends.

For some reason Jithu didn't explain much about Gender phobia. May be because he don't have that. Fortunately or unfortunately I have that, though I don't shiver as such :) I avoid speaking with girls of contemporary age for reasons unknown (have changed a little after joining IIITB). But I have always felt comfortable with elder girls (akka, aunty etc.) So this is a sub sect of Gender phobia. Some one has any suggestion?? :P

SHUBHA said...

Actually i used to think we indians have this mentality! honestly dis mindset exists evn in so callled "v v forward" western societies too.. there was a notion made popular by so called gr8 ppl in past... theory of eugenics.... trust me it is d worst thing i ever came across... but it is gud to c u r trying to come out of dat "biased" mindset :) gud post!!

Sundar said...

Excellent post.

Caste, Creed, Religion, Race, Color, Ethnicity, Nationality, Rationality, Culture, Language..etc that tries to divide people are not REAL.

The only truth is what we are is determined by three things - Surroundings, Parents/Guardians & Genes.

We cannot change them. But we can change ourself by understanding these factors.

Sundar said...

Correction - I meant regionalism/regionality not rationality.

jithendrian said...

@ Sweta
Thanks , Even when i was in Hexaware training , 100 from TN and 100 from Maharashtra + MP ... before that i was thinking north indians were stylish they were extravagent and superfluous especially my percption about girls was totally different (Frankly speaking i had a bad opinion on Mumbai girls (Films generally show Red-Light area,Ball dancer etc.. in Mumbai. so it had created a bad impression on Northern side girls (Gender + Region Biased) later i realized that was too stupid to analyse people in this manner.One incident i forgot to narrate, We had a tour in Lucknow , there we(along 20 people ) went to some muslim monuments something. There was a grave. I told my sir 'see,this is islamic place,i can not come' They went.I was sitting alone outside.At that time few muslims came and invited me inside some good furnished hall and asked me to sit and also promised that they would not disturb me.We talked for few minutes.They asked about my principles etc.. slowly we became friends. Asusual i am always curious to ask controversial questions. I asked them 'Generally i heard here in UP muslims-hindu problems there? is it so ?' Then they replied 'This is the general misconception created by stupid media and worst politicians. Even in Ayodhya when they bring Lord Rama outside of the temple we muslims all close out mutton shop until he returns back to temple'
Then i realized Muslims are not opponents but they are humans and can be good friends too.

jithendrian said...

@ Karthik ,
It was a unarguable comment . Fortunately / Unfortuantely your thoughts matched with mine which is very rare. Most of the time we fight in blogs :)

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Any person can preach others .. many can practise but only few can change others. You are one among the few.


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Jithu, I have never told you this. As you have shared your thoughts publicly, I want to share my personal life. I was born as a Brahmin and converted as a Christian. Forget about Region, if i count my relations, some of them are hindu naidus, brahmins, christian brahmins, reddys, naicker ( christians follow castes too. No wonder they are Indians.) And according to your point of view, as you were brought up with brahmin environment, you think brahmins are believable and others are with a question mark. i understand but, please come out of your thoughts. world is not what you think. When I look for friends, I look only for the friendly qualities do they have. I have about 10 close friends (through out India, one in US) all from different communit, religion and region. Friends are what we take. If we meet with an accident and are in need of blood we look only for the blood group not for the caste/community/religion or region. Racism is what i hate the most.

Happy bloggin... :)



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Hello Jitendrian,

Hope u remember me by my name.I was very happy to go through the blog as a person has changed by his own experiences in life.Even though i am a brahmin,I personally feel that the religion and boundaries between nations are created by human beings to stream line himself.At first we have to give importance to humanity rather than all other things.If all persons starts giving importance to humanity rather than nation,religion etc then imagine how the world would be?...The world be free from the major threat of Terrorism which is killing thousands of people....Saying this if the above things happen it would be really nice but which is very difficult to happen.But we end it in a positive node that all these would happen and we would be free from strife.....


sam said...

I am very very sorry to see a racist comment being posted. I believe there needs to be an education in India where they are taught to live with other people. I do not want to say any more as I am a crossbelt but I have never ever thought about this. I consider people as people , feelings as feelings,every body bleeds .period. If you bring caste in your life you are screwed.
Grow up my friend. You might be smart but you need tolerance .

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