Thursday, November 19, 2009

Stop calling brother / sister ...


In this blog, i disclaim all the examples are real. :)
Whenever we see a pair (ofcourse a boy and a girl) , we assume they are either true friends or lovers. But one interpretaion we missed. Thats they may be biological brother-sister !!. When we realize that this pair is sibbling then we will not comment.This is universal truth. Sometime people exploiting this. Yes, Today it has become a tradition that when a boy and a girl have intimate friendship, themselves call as brother-sister to feel comfortable. I do not know why !! Why can not a boy and a girl be a great friends.Please stop broadcasting that 'We are brothers and sisters'. Sometimes the most irritating thing is when they have 'lover' (I do not want to explicitly tell) kind of relationship ,they call themselves as Brother-Sister. I know , people who tell they have sibbling kind of relationship have weak heart to face the society. so they are doing these things to comfort themselves .One thing i will inform to these kind of pairs, whether you have true friendship or anything , people always view you in their perspective irrespective of your announcement Of course i respect people who have real brother-sister feelings !! But i request you .please do not mind others please carry on your relationships (True friendships) as it is. If you equate the true friendship as brother-sister relationship for others then it is an insult to both friendship as well as relationship !!!

10 comments:

SHUBHA said...

Strong emotions!!

Well, I think calling smone who is not your "actual" brother, brother is not wrong as long as you really mean it! For other cases, whatever u hv expressed is flawlwssly accurate. :)

Sweta said...
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Sweta said...

Good One Jithu !!!

Karthik.R said...

//please do not mind others please carry on your relationships (True friendships) as it is//

I don't find a need for that 'inside brackets'. Not just true friendship, whatever relationship love,lust,time-pass etc. ppl can carry on.

"Yes, so what?" is the best answer I have ever heard.

As long as you are comfortable in ANY relationship with a name brother-sister, carry on with that too. brother-sister is again just a name.

So whats the bottom line? Don't try to justify relationships to any one. Do anything which makes you feel happy (at your own cost)

Arunkumar KS said...

Looks like you have vent out your feelings... I appreciate your courage to come up with this topic... As for as a relationship is concerned, the primary goal of the ones involved in it would be conceal it.. This is due to a number of reasons.. You will know it once you find yourself in one.. So they tend to resort to any possible option available... Be it calling them brother-sister or cousins or whatever for that matter.. As you rightly said its upto the people to perceive what they think, so what impact does it have when they coin the relationship the way they want it??? I agree calling themselves siblings and doing things not all siblings would do, be disturbing to most of us.. I hope the examples you have seen realize this soon and coin their relationship with a better name..

shsmani said...

hmmm.. nice to see lots of thoughts in here.. a lot of ppl have tried to address this subject in a so many different medias viz., print, television and all that... we have one more noble soul trying on the web... unfortunately in life nothing is right and nothing is wrong.. they are just perspectives... just go with "whatever works" for the invididual or "pairs" as referred in this log.. Jithu, looks like a lot of emotion and anger in your blog.. good for blogging but may not be as good for you...

jithendrian said...

Karthik , you do not understand my point. Yes i agree , brother-sister is just a name .. But this is not just labelling !! It is far beyond that.My point is Brother and Sister can be good Friends and Good Friends can have brother and sister feelings ... but the actions which are not considered to be as a brother-sister do then it is the issue. If they do , it is not bad but do not tell brother-sister !! Even in some cases biological brother and sister can behave like this. I do not know these are exceptions.My only point is be frank !!!

jithendrian said...

Good thought Arun.Can we coin the name as "Friebling" (Friend + Sibbling) which can mean those two are close friends and not as close as boy/girl friends. They are not brothers and sisters to maintain some level of dignity but they feel like brothers and sisters. Is it Ok ?

jithendrian said...

Mani , You have been watching me for the past 7 years, i rarely get angry or emotions. Yes sometimes i always want people to be frank. There is no personal experience :) . Just i thought this is not a right one ofcourse nothing is right or wrong.Its my simple perspective. More over i remember you also told me regarding this when i had brother-sister relationship with one !! :) Leave it , we will discuss in person :)

sunanda yellapragada said...

Personally, I feel...one need not broadcast that they are in any form of relationship. The understanding should be between the two...who ever they are sharing the relationship with. The more explicitly one is announcing about their relationship with others(it can take any form, i mean the relationship), the more that person is insecure about the self amongst the people in the society...

As long as one is comfortable in his/her own shoes about what they share and all...one need not worry about any damn thing as you know you are right...and need not keep explaining people even if they did not beg you to ask one...